Below are answers to some common questions asked about coaching, our practice, and our coaches. Have a specific question you need answered? Ask!
Why would I want coaching?
We all tend to get "stuck" in behavioral patterns in our relationships, and once they become the new "normal" we have a hard time seeing them. Coaches are trained to recognize these patterns, bring them to our clients' attention in an honest, nonjudgmental way, and help them change the patterns they wish to change.
Individual and couple sessions are generally sixty minutes, although sessions may run slightly longer or shorter depending on exactly what our clients need. Sessions with triads, families, and groups will run longer in order to give everyone enough time to be heard.
How much do coaching sessions cost?
Sessions for individuals and couples are $150 for the first session and $100 per session after that. For triads, families, and groups, pricing is based on session length and the number of clients participating.
Do you offer sliding-scale or reduced fee sessions?
Infinite Heart does not use sliding scales to set client pricing. Instead, we reserve a limited number of reduced fee session slots for clients with low incomes. Some clients also prefer to be seen less often in order to save on costs. If you feel that you need help paying for sessions, let our coaches know.
No, we do not bill insurance. Infinite Heart does not provide medical services, we do not diagnose our clients, and we prefer to maintain our client's confidentiality by not sharing session information with large corporations.
Will you see either of us individually if we also see you as a couple/triad/group?
No, we do not see clients both individually and as part of a relationship for one simple reason: coaching is a place to grow. We believe that healthy relationships come from growing together, not growing apart.
How does confidentiality work?
If you tell us you plan to harm yourself, harm someone else, or know of a child or a disabled person who is being abused, we are required to report it. We will go over exactly how this works during our first session. Other than that, anything you say is kept in strictest confidence.
The communities that we are all part of are small, so it is very likely that you may know our other clients, our friends in the community, etc. You can be confident that nothing you say in session will ever be shared with other members of the community, and anything they have said to us in confidence will not be shared with you.
You may see our coaches at events in the community. If you choose to speak to us, you are welcome to, but otherwise we will keep our distance to protect your confidentiality. Don't take it personally; it's for your benefit.
What happens if I want to stop coaching?
You will not be coming to Infinite Heart Coaching forever, and you are welcome to stop coaching whenever you choose. Our clients are always welcome to return to coaching any time to address new issues, or simply to strengthen the gains made in session.
What does "sex positive" mean?
In short, sex positive means that we believe that sexuality is a beautiful and important part of what it means to be human, and that any consensual expression of that sexuality should not only be accepted, but encouraged. We apply this philosophy to everything we do professionally, and we live it in our personal lives as well.
How do I know if I'm kinky?
"Kinky" is not a black or white concept, and there are many shades of gray (all puns intended) between "vanilla" sexuality and the more extreme forms of sexual expression. If you find yourself fantasizing about sex that goes beyond vanilla, or curious about what it would be like to try new things in the bedroom, you fall somewhere in those gray spaces.
Our coaches have years of professional and personal experience in the kink and BDSM communities, and can help you and your partner(s) explore your fantasies in a healthy and consensual way. We can also direct you towards community resources and mentors who can help you grow and develop your sexuality.
What if only one of us is kinky?
Many people are afraid to share their fantasies with their partners, for fear that they will be ridiculed or rejected for them. This often leads to feelings of isolation and distance. We can help discuss fantasies and desires in your relationship in a nonjudgmental manner, find common ground, and negotiate how everyone can feel fulfilled, appreciated, and loved.
Can non-monogamy really work?
Yes, absolutely. Non-monogamy is not a good fit for everyone, but for many people it allows for a larger relationship support network, more open sharing of desires and fantasies, and a more vibrant sex life. Non-monogamy also requires people to have strong, open communication in their relationship, which actually can increase commitment and bring the relationships closer together.
Do you write letters for transgender medical procedures or treatment?
Infinite Heart Coaching does not diagnose or treat mental disorders. If you need letters, we can refer you to other qualified mental health professionals who can provide letters for you.
Infidelity is common, yes. Most relationships will experience some form of infidelity, and this is true whether the relationship is monogamous or non-monogamous.
Will our relationship survive this affair?
There is no firm answer to this question, because how each person chooses to handle infidelity in their relationship is different. If everyone in the relationship wants to make it last, then yes, the relationship can survive. Affairs are not easy to move past, but a willingness to improve communication and rebuild broken trust goes a long, long way.
How do we rebuild broken trust?
The biggest factors to rebuilding trust are openness, transparency, and time. Every moment of open communication and honest disclosure strengthens the relationship and heals the damage done by infidelity.
Do you work with monogamous/straight/vanilla clients too?
Yes, absolutely. We find that the nonjudgmental approach we take to coaching works well for all clients, regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, relationship structure, or sexual experiences.